Rory Bore at Ink Interrupted hosts the Tuesday Coffee Chat, and this week she discusses, Sticks and Stones: What words make you feel the worst about yourself? What words make you feel the best?
Dummy. That's the word i wanted to avoid at all costs. To be called dumb, to not get an A, to miss one spelling word, to get a 99% instead of a 100%, the words accompanied by spankings would come, and i would be told, again, that i wasn't smart, i was dumb.
How could i miss that word, that question, that anything! How could i be so dumb!
It drove me to try to learn, to try to read more, to try to study harder, and it drives me still.
That's the word i cannot stand to be called. It brings back several memories, all bad.
Yes, i know, the adult in my life who did that to me as a child was a seriously wounded person and wanted me to do better, and didn't know how to go about encouraging improvement in a non-damaging way. It's been forgiven, that person is much loved and has changed (and gotten sober) since then, but some damage never really goes away.
Yes, i know, the adult in my life who did that to me as a child was a seriously wounded person and wanted me to do better, and didn't know how to go about encouraging improvement in a non-damaging way. It's been forgiven, that person is much loved and has changed (and gotten sober) since then, but some damage never really goes away.
Never, not once, did i ever use that word with my children. In fact, even when working with Bigger Girl's learning disabilities, i did everything i could to make sure she knew she could succeed, that she was smart.
It doesn't take a lot of special words to make me feel good. A smile, a pleasant, "Good morning," a bit of chat about the day, telling me what's going on in your world, all of them can make me feel happy, like i've connected with someone.
The nice words that come up every day, given with a smile, are what i like to give and receive.
It only takes one word to make me feel bad, and to this day if it's said, a part of me thinks i deserve it and that it was said to put me back in my place.
Please think twice before you tell anyone, anywhere, that he or she is dumb or a dummy, no matter what. Yes, everyone makes a bone-headed move once in a while, that doesn't mean you have to use that word. You don't know the damage it might do.
Today is:
Babu Jagivan Ram's Birthday -- Andhra Pradesh, India
Bell Bottoms Day -- remember those? apparently so did someone who wanted to celebrate the fact
Easter Island Day -- anniversary of the "discovery" of the Island in 1722, on Easter Sunday of that year
Fringe Fairies Welcome Party -- Fairy Calendar
Global Day of Action on Military Spending -- sponsored by by the International Peace Bureau (IPB) and the Institute for Policy Studies (IPS), this year a two week campaign
Go for Broke Day -- take a risk, and make it count! step out and do something extraordinary; anniversary of the day in 1945 that a US Army unit made up of almost all Japanese-Americans, the 442nd Regimental, went for broke and managed to break through the Nazi Gothic line in Italy in one day
Lady Luck Day -- in honor of the Roman festival of Fortune held each year on this date
National Caramel Day
National Deep Dish Pizza Day -- anniversary of the day in 1979 that Uno Chicago Grill, originator of the deep dish pizza, first opened a restaurant outside the Chicago area
National Raisin and Spice Bar Day
Nones of April -- Ancient Roman Calendar; also
Fortuna Publica -- festival of Fortune in her role as the Luck of the People
Saint Vincent Ferrer's Day (Patron of brick makers, builders, construction workers, pavement workers, plumbers, tile makers; of Calamonaci, Italy; Casteltermini, Agrigento, Italy; Leganes, Philippines)
Sikmogil -- South Korea (Arbor Day)
Sun 'n Fun International Fly in & Expo -- Lakeland, Florida, US (preserving and enhancing the future of flight; through Sunday)
Anniversary Today:
John Rolfe marries Pocahontas, 1614
Birthdays Today:
Mike McCready, 1966
Greg Mathis, 1960
Anthony Horowitz, 1955
Mitch Pileggi, 1952
Agnetha Faltskog, 1950
Max Gail, 1943
Michael Moriarty, 1942
Judith A. Resnik, 1949
Colin Powell, 1937
Frank Gorshin, 1934
Roger Corman, 1926
Gale Storm, 1921
Gregory Peck, 1916
Bette Davis, 1908
Spencer Tracy, 1900
Booker T. Washington, 1856
Joseph Lister, 1827
Elihu Yale, 1649
Debuting/Premiering Today:
"The Secret Garden"(Musical), 1991
"Married . . . with Children"(TV), 1987
"Secret Agent"(TV), 1961
"Fireside Theatre"(TV), 1949
"Pavane pour une infante défunte"(Ravel piano solo, Pavane for a Dead Princess), 1902
"Die Fledermaus"(Operetta), 1874
The Symphony No. 2 in D major(Beethoven Op. 36), 1803
Today in History:
St. Patrick returns to Ireland as a missionary bishop, 456
Two hundred Dutch noblemen petition to have the Spanish Inquisition suspended in the Netherlands, 1566
The Daimyo (Lord) of the Satsuma Domain in southern Kyushu, Japan, completes his successful invasion of the Ryukyu Kingdom in Okinawa, 1609
The Native American Indian princess Pocahontas, daughter of Chief Powhatan, marries Englishman John Rolfe, 1614
Jacob Roggeveen discovers Easter Island, 1722
The first recorded meteorite in Scotland falls in Possil, 1804
Helen Keller learns her first word, "water," from Anne Sullivan, 1887
The Greco-Turkish War, also called "Thirty Days' War", is declared between Greece and the Ottoman Empire, 1897
Archaeologists in Knossos, Crete, discover a large cache of clay tablets with hieroglyphic writing in a script they call Linear B, 1900
Firestone Tire and Rubber Company begins production of balloon-tires, 1923
In an act of civil disobedience, Mohandas Gandhi breaks British law after marching to the sea and making salt, 1930
In the Dominion of Newfoundland, 10,000 rioters seize the Colonial Building leading to the end of self-government, 1932
Ethel and Julius Rosenberg are sentenced to death for espionage, 1951
Winston Churchill resigns as Prime Minister of the UK because of failing health, 1955
Ripple Rock, an underwater threat to navigation in the Seymour Narrows in Canada is destroyed in one of the largest non-nuclear controlled explosions of the time, 1958
In Japan, the Akashi-Kaikyo Bridge linking Shikoku with Honshu, the largest suspension bridge in the world, opens, 1998
North Korea launches its controversial Kwangmyongsong-2 rocket, 2009
SkyNews admits it illegally hacked emails that belonged to members of the public on two separate occasions, 2012